so it has been a while since i've written on xanga, and there is a lot going on, yet more to work on.
since i last wrote, some things have happened. i finally got over the guy i had been dating up in michigan. he and his pregnant girlfriend are still together and driving each other nuts, and i'm not really in touch with him at all. i don't need that in my life anyway...too much drama. thinking about it, i wonder why i settled for someone like him in the first place...it's not about the girlfriend or the lying (that too, but not only), it's also about the fact that he thought
i had resolved myself pretty much to work on myself, which i did. i began to explore my issues, and learn more about who i am as a person and appreciate myself for who God created me to be. i began to trust God again (or at least give the Almighty one more chance lol...wow, i know that sounds pretentious). i did some dating here and there, but didn't really expect anything out of it. i had decided to stop dating for a while, and i was becoming content with my life as a single woman and as a dog lady. i began to appreciate my life and all the blessings in it...my family, my relatives (including my cousin's baby girl who has red hair like me), my loyal friends in cincinnati, all over the country and the world, the fact that i get to have a job that, for the most part, doesn't feel like a job. my life is awesome even without a significant other.
then i met someone...he's someone i have a great deal in common with, and i believe we "get" each other...both the good and the bad, as well as the plain off-kilter. it's a crazy kind of thing, and just awesome. right now, just living in the moment, and taking it for what it is. and we will have been together a month next week. so that part of my life, for once in my life, has been going quite well.
as far as teaching is concerned, the past semester gave me a reminder as to why i decided to do it in the first place. i enjoyed my students, and it really seemed that despite my pedagogical shortcomings, many of them got a lot out of the course. it has renewed my confidence in my ability to teach.
i think probably the main hitch in my life right now is my dissertation. i'm working on it, but i need to devote more time and energy to finishing it. i want to defend by the end of the calendar year at the latest. a part of me is uncertain as to what will happen once i graduate. what will my life look like? where will i get a job? will i receive a post-doc, teach, or go into survey research? will i actually settle down in cincinnati of all places? am i seriously considering staying in cincinnati? and getting past the fear to actually get the dissertation finished is a serious mental exercise. i would have never thought that the dissertation would evoke other feelings and concerns outside of the subject matter of my research. so that is the next step.
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